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Isolde Walters finds out
Meet the men paying thousands to learn how to date. When I meet Gabe Jenkinson to hear about his experience of using a dating coach, my first thought is: he’s far too attractive to need help with his love life. I’m flummoxed to learn that this man has shelled out £650 on London-based dating coach Minnie Lane’s services.
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What’s more, he plans on having more sessions with Lane, at £275 a pop, when he moves to the capital later this year. Jenkinson, 36, tells me he turned to a dating coach to tackle the “troubling patterns” in his love life – or those that have caused a lack of one. He’s among a growing number of men seeking professional help in London to learn how to date. They are shelling out thousands of pounds - in some cases, tens of thousands, for the services. While seduction is part and parcel of the process, forming a long-term bond is the goal of many of the clients of these so-called ‘dating coaches for the elite’, including Jenkinson. He explains that it’s not an inability to attract women that prompted his decision to call on Lane’s services, but his seeming inability to turn dates into a full-blown relationship. “I was quite good at first dates. I almost felt like I peaked on the first date. I’d feel: ‘oh, there’s nowhere to go but down now’” the 36-year-old, explains. “I have a very limited relationship history,” adds Jenkinson. “I would say that I have never been in a serious relationship ever. My issue wasn’t that I had trouble meeting people or that women didn’t find me attractive,” he explains. “But physical attraction is only the first little bit of it, there’s much more involved in having a relationship and in dating.” Jenkinson’s lack of confidence in the dating world will resonate with many modern singletons. Having worked with Lane he describes himself as a “people pleaser”, adding: “If I liked the other person, I would try to act in a way that I thought would ensure that they liked me. I wasn’t confident that someone would like me for me. I felt like I had to put on a performance and that put a tonne of pressure on me.” Inevitably, Jenkinson says these feelings led to self-sabotage in the early stages of forming a connection. “I would shoot myself down before they [my dates] got the chance,” he explains. In their online sessions, Lane asked Jenkinson to do exercises designed to counteract this pattern. In one task, Jenkinson wrote a stream of consciousness describing what his life would look like in a year’s time if he were in a happy relationship. And it seems to have helped him make headway in changing his mindset. “If I constantly give attention to the downsides of dating and why I think it doesn’t work, then that’s more likely to be the result, but if I have an image in my head that is positive and something that I would actually want, it’s easier to believe in it and do things that would make it happen,” Jenkinson said. I want marriage and kids and that’s part of why I did this. If someone wants a relationship, paying for help is worth it, in my opinion. Five months on from his coaching, Jenkinson is not in a relationship, yet, but he is booking more sessions in order to smooth his transition from dating in his native Toronto to dating in London. “It will be a whole new experience with a whole new dating pool. Those first six sessions were like prep school, and now we are going to chat about what worked and what didn’t. Those first sessions gave me some tools to recognise certain patterns and to break them,” he says.
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Article:
Isolde Walters finds out
Meet the men paying thousands to learn how to date. When I meet Gabe Jenkinson to hear about his experience of using a dating coach, my first thought is: he’s far too attractive to need help with his love life. I’m flummoxed to learn that this man has shelled out £650 on London-based dating coach Minnie Lane’s services.
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What’s more, he plans on having more sessions with Lane, at £275 a pop, when he moves to the capital later this year. Jenkinson, 36, tells me he turned to a dating coach to tackle the “troubling patterns” in his love life – or those that have caused a lack of one. He’s among a growing number of men seeking professional help in London to learn how to date. They are shelling out thousands of pounds - in some cases, tens of thousands, for the services. While seduction is part and parcel of the process, forming a long-term bond is the goal of many of the clients of these so-called ‘dating coaches for the elite’, including Jenkinson. He explains that it’s not an inability to attract women that prompted his decision to call on Lane’s services, but his seeming inability to turn dates into a full-blown relationship. “I was quite good at first dates. I almost felt like I peaked on the first date. I’d feel: ‘oh, there’s nowhere to go but down now’” the 36-year-old, explains. “I have a very limited relationship history,” adds Jenkinson. “I would say that I have never been in a serious relationship ever. My issue wasn’t that I had trouble meeting people or that women didn’t find me attractive,” he explains. “But physical attraction is only the first little bit of it, there’s much more involved in having a relationship and in dating.” Jenkinson’s lack of confidence in the dating world will resonate with many modern singletons. Having worked with Lane he describes himself as a “people pleaser”, adding: “If I liked the other person, I would try to act in a way that I thought would ensure that they liked me. I wasn’t confident that someone would like me for me. I felt like I had to put on a performance and that put a tonne of pressure on me.” Inevitably, Jenkinson says these feelings led to self-sabotage in the early stages of forming a connection. “I would shoot myself down before they [my dates] got the chance,” he explains. In their online sessions, Lane asked Jenkinson to do exercises designed to counteract this pattern. In one task, Jenkinson wrote a stream of consciousness describing what his life would look like in a year’s time if he were in a happy relationship. And it seems to have helped him make headway in changing his mindset. “If I constantly give attention to the downsides of dating and why I think it doesn’t work, then that’s more likely to be the result, but if I have an image in my head that is positive and something that I would actually want, it’s easier to believe in it and do things that would make it happen,” Jenkinson said. I want marriage and kids and that’s part of why I did this. If someone wants a relationship, paying for help is worth it, in my opinion. Five months on from his coaching, Jenkinson is not in a relationship, yet, but he is booking more sessions in order to smooth his transition from dating in his native Toronto to dating in London. “It will be a whole new experience with a whole new dating pool. Those first six sessions were like prep school, and now we are going to chat about what worked and what didn’t. Those first sessions gave me some tools to recognise certain patterns and to break them,” he says.
Dating consultant for men
Dating expert for men
Female dating coach for men