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Men confess: 22 reasons why younger guys fall for older women | Today.com interview. Update: Are you wondering why younger men fall in love with older women? This new article published in AOL shares direct quotes from the men interviewed for our international bestseller, “Older Women/Younger Men.” At the time, this topic was highly controversial.
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Imagine… a younger man confesses desiring a committed relationship with an older woman. My co-author and I knew “why” because we both had younger partners. But this story needed to come directly from the men. It was their voice that substantiated the reasons for this age-gap love. We interviewed over 200 couples for this book’s publication. The average age difference was 16 years and time together was 12 years. We’re talking committed relationships, monogamous couples living together and/or married. Older women/younger men partnerships rock the foundation of our socially accepted belief system. As women, we’ve been told (directly and indirectly) that we’re only worth our ‘youth and beauty.’ Not so for these men. They value three traits common to older women: We know who we are. We know what we want. We don’t play games. Included in these excerpts are the many reasons why a younger man finds value, worth, and excitement in the love of an older woman. Editor’s note: At the time this article was originally published, Emmanuel Macron was a favorite to win the French presidential election, but he was making headlines for more than his political success. At 64, Macron’s wife Brigitte is 24 years older than him. They first met when he was 15 and she was a 39-year-old teacher at his school. She divorced her first husband and married Macron 14 years later. The unusual relationship and age gap isn’t making waves in France, but it’s getting a lot of attention in other parts of the world. In “ Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance,” Susan Winter and Felicia Brings interviewed more than 200 men to discover the allure of the so-called “Mrs. Robinson syndrome.” You’ll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women. Chapter excerpt, “Men Speak” from Older Women/Younger Men: “I’d do it again? Definitely, no question. Oh yeah, and once you’ve done it, you definitely look at older women in another way.”—Nick, 33. We’ve made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. Now it’s time to let the men speak for themselves. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer. Here are some answers that are clear, articulate and to the point. Their sentiments represent a very large proportion of the opinions we heard expressed. “I met Karolina at a party given by some friends. When I saw her, I thought she was just the perfect woman for me and I was sure about that. I wasn’t looking for an older woman and Karolina wasn’t looking for a younger manWhy Are Younger Guys Attracted To Me? 21 Probable Reasons | Bonobolgy interview, but it just happened. (I was 39 and she was 55 then.) Our relationship is unique, because it’s not just built on sex, but on trust, respect and love. We are both morning people and nearly always in a good mood. We are both hard-working with many hobbies in common. In my opinion, age has nothing to do with our relationship. In our twenty-five years together, we have never had a serious problem and we are still very happy.”—Paolo, 64. “Pat is very special. Not only is she beautiful, but she has a wonderful sense of humor and is very giving. The ability to talk about anything with her was refreshing and engaging. In fact, when I first met her, I didn’t know I was attracted to an ‘older’ woman. I knew she was older than I, but I didn’t realize the disparity in age until she told me (which didn’t happen until a couple of dates into our relationship). Pat offered me space, devotion and herself, which I couldn’t find in anyone else. I take better care of myself now. She is a best friend who reflects back to me what a good person I am, which builds my confidence and self-esteem. I now have a better job and feel better about myself than ever before.”—Neil, 35. Nigel, at 37, finds himself attracted to older women, in part for their clarity and substance and also their relaxed attitude about life: “I find that I’m attracted to a woman who has some degree of self-possession. I like the stimulation of a sharp intellect. I enjoy sitting down to dinner with someone who has a level of conversation I can appreciate and enjoy. I think younger women are sometimes too focused on starting families and that is rarely an issue with older women. I’ve always had relationships with older women. They know themselves. They have so much more to offer and they are looking for different things. They are not just looking for guys who will be good fathers and providers. Older women can be more playful. They are more relaxed. It’s really a personality thing for me regarding what is attractive. I enjoy a confident attitude and older women definitely have the upper hand in that area.” Dan, age 24, also expressed a similar theme: “When I meet a woman over 30, she’s usually very clear and focused. She knows what she wants in life and it makes being with her so much easier. I look at a lot of my friends who have girlfriends their age and younger and the problems they have strike me as ridiculous. They frequently act foolish and immature. I don’t have time for that behavior—that’s why I like mature women.” That life experience is sexy was also a repeated theme: “Just the fact that there’s so much to learn from an older woman, that they have so many more life experiences to draw upon, is an adventure to me. It’s like a rush.”—Vincent, 31. Some younger men confess that they saw themselves reflected back in an older woman and realized the woman’s own specialness: “She was very beautiful and caring and we had similar interests. She offered me the opportunity to see another perspective on a lot of different issues. I mean, older women think differently on certain issues and they’ve got more experience. I grew up a lot with her. Yeah, definitely, she helped me to grow up. She made me realize how important I could be in making someone else happy. Not that I was doing it for her, but just being with her.”—Art, 27.
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Men confess: 22 reasons why younger guys fall for older women | Today.com interview. Update: Are you wondering why younger men fall in love with older women? This new article published in AOL shares direct quotes from the men interviewed for our international bestseller, “Older Women/Younger Men.” At the time, this topic was highly controversial.
Click here for why an older man wants a younger woman
Imagine… a younger man confesses desiring a committed relationship with an older woman. My co-author and I knew “why” because we both had younger partners. But this story needed to come directly from the men. It was their voice that substantiated the reasons for this age-gap love. We interviewed over 200 couples for this book’s publication. The average age difference was 16 years and time together was 12 years. We’re talking committed relationships, monogamous couples living together and/or married. Older women/younger men partnerships rock the foundation of our socially accepted belief system. As women, we’ve been told (directly and indirectly) that we’re only worth our ‘youth and beauty.’ Not so for these men. They value three traits common to older women: We know who we are. We know what we want. We don’t play games. Included in these excerpts are the many reasons why a younger man finds value, worth, and excitement in the love of an older woman. Editor’s note: At the time this article was originally published, Emmanuel Macron was a favorite to win the French presidential election, but he was making headlines for more than his political success. At 64, Macron’s wife Brigitte is 24 years older than him. They first met when he was 15 and she was a 39-year-old teacher at his school. She divorced her first husband and married Macron 14 years later. The unusual relationship and age gap isn’t making waves in France, but it’s getting a lot of attention in other parts of the world. In “ Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance,” Susan Winter and Felicia Brings interviewed more than 200 men to discover the allure of the so-called “Mrs. Robinson syndrome.” You’ll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women. Chapter excerpt, “Men Speak” from Older Women/Younger Men: “I’d do it again? Definitely, no question. Oh yeah, and once you’ve done it, you definitely look at older women in another way.”—Nick, 33. We’ve made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. Now it’s time to let the men speak for themselves. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer. Here are some answers that are clear, articulate and to the point. Their sentiments represent a very large proportion of the opinions we heard expressed. “I met Karolina at a party given by some friends. When I saw her, I thought she was just the perfect woman for me and I was sure about that. I wasn’t looking for an older woman and Karolina wasn’t looking for a younger manWhy Are Younger Guys Attracted To Me? 21 Probable Reasons | Bonobolgy interview, but it just happened. (I was 39 and she was 55 then.) Our relationship is unique, because it’s not just built on sex, but on trust, respect and love. We are both morning people and nearly always in a good mood. We are both hard-working with many hobbies in common. In my opinion, age has nothing to do with our relationship. In our twenty-five years together, we have never had a serious problem and we are still very happy.”—Paolo, 64. “Pat is very special. Not only is she beautiful, but she has a wonderful sense of humor and is very giving. The ability to talk about anything with her was refreshing and engaging. In fact, when I first met her, I didn’t know I was attracted to an ‘older’ woman. I knew she was older than I, but I didn’t realize the disparity in age until she told me (which didn’t happen until a couple of dates into our relationship). Pat offered me space, devotion and herself, which I couldn’t find in anyone else. I take better care of myself now. She is a best friend who reflects back to me what a good person I am, which builds my confidence and self-esteem. I now have a better job and feel better about myself than ever before.”—Neil, 35. Nigel, at 37, finds himself attracted to older women, in part for their clarity and substance and also their relaxed attitude about life: “I find that I’m attracted to a woman who has some degree of self-possession. I like the stimulation of a sharp intellect. I enjoy sitting down to dinner with someone who has a level of conversation I can appreciate and enjoy. I think younger women are sometimes too focused on starting families and that is rarely an issue with older women. I’ve always had relationships with older women. They know themselves. They have so much more to offer and they are looking for different things. They are not just looking for guys who will be good fathers and providers. Older women can be more playful. They are more relaxed. It’s really a personality thing for me regarding what is attractive. I enjoy a confident attitude and older women definitely have the upper hand in that area.” Dan, age 24, also expressed a similar theme: “When I meet a woman over 30, she’s usually very clear and focused. She knows what she wants in life and it makes being with her so much easier. I look at a lot of my friends who have girlfriends their age and younger and the problems they have strike me as ridiculous. They frequently act foolish and immature. I don’t have time for that behavior—that’s why I like mature women.” That life experience is sexy was also a repeated theme: “Just the fact that there’s so much to learn from an older woman, that they have so many more life experiences to draw upon, is an adventure to me. It’s like a rush.”—Vincent, 31. Some younger men confess that they saw themselves reflected back in an older woman and realized the woman’s own specialness: “She was very beautiful and caring and we had similar interests. She offered me the opportunity to see another perspective on a lot of different issues. I mean, older women think differently on certain issues and they’ve got more experience. I grew up a lot with her. Yeah, definitely, she helped me to grow up. She made me realize how important I could be in making someone else happy. Not that I was doing it for her, but just being with her.”—Art, 27.