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Article about how to meet men in real life:
I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps. I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it ",IRL.",
The Best Way to Meet Men in Real Life (Even If You’re Nervous) If you’re an older woman trying to find a romantic relationship in the real world, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps.
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I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it IRL." But no one teaches us how to approach new people in real life. We've been quite literally discouraged. We were raised being told, "Don't talk to strangers ." So it makes perfect sense that meeting potential partners "in the wild" feels scary, especially if it’s been a while since your last actual date. That’s why I use a mindset tool to help mature adults navigate the experience of meeting people while out and about. It's called the “When in Roam” scale. It’s based on a simple idea: no matter your age or relationship history, you can build confidence, connect with new people, and open the door to real love again. Check out the "scale" and decide what stage you are in. I learned about each stage and the coaching for each stage from the Handel Method. Stage One: The Head-Down Phase. You’re out in public places, but you’re not looking up. You’re not making eye contact. You’ve decided the dating scene is a bad idea—or just not for you. If this is you, your first step is simple. Every time you go out, make "happy eyes" with two people. As Tyra Banks says, smize= "smile with your eyes." Whether you’re in a coffee shop, walking group, or waiting in line at the grocery store, practice looking up and showing warmth with your eyes. It doesn't need to be someone you're interested in or even someone your age or "type," anyone will do. Just get those eyes up and on other people! Stage Two: You Wish You Could Meet People. You want to meet a potential partner, but you’re not sure how. Your assignment: small talk. It’s the best way to start. Just have a Q and A with someone. Ask the nice guy at a tour of your local art museum what he thought of the exhibits. Comment on someone’s dog at the park. Chat up a stranger about what they are buying at your favorite local store. Compliment someone. Ask for directions. Heck, ask what time it is if you are too shy to come up with something spicier. You’re not trying to score a date on the spot—you’re just building the muscle of reaching across the great divide and striking up a dialogue. Challenge yourself to interact with a stranger each time you leave your home. Your goal is at least one back and forth. If it goes further, advance to stage 3! Stage Three: Start the Real Conversations. Stage 3 is for people who can strike up conversations but are still a little shaky on how to sustain a conversation. If you're at this stage, you know how to make an overture to safe people, but it’s time to test your limits--try new people and try extending the conversation. This could be with someone you are standing next to on a street corner. Or at a speed dating event, a meetup group, or after church or pickleball court. Maybe you spot someone in your age group and ask what brought them to the event or location. The goal? Build comfort talking to seemingly single men—without pressure. Read my blog on how to flirt naturally. Now you are officially practicing flirting, but start with people who seem safe and kind (and single). Feel free to ask friends to set you up for this by inviting you to places where they may be! Stage Four: Get Comfortable with Rejection. In Stage 4, you aren't afraid of chatting someone up, but some people might still intimidate you. This is where the real dating practice begins. You are to start initiating conversations with men to whom you could actually be attracted, with no care about their response. That cutie in your book club? The attractive man at your gym? Someone sitting alone at the bar? Say hello. Ask a question. Now you are actually "going for" being blown off or rejected, to toughen your skin on purpose. Flirt out of your league, by design. Rejection is a natural part of dating in the real world and the online dating world alike. I want you to build up a callus for a good reason! If you can handle this without taking it personally, you're so much better off down the road. Stage Five: You Can Talk to Anyone—Now Be Picky. If you are at stage 5, meeting people IRL isn't your problem. Your problem is you're too distracted by all the people around you. You're the social glue because you are so good at it, and may be a social crutch or wingperson for others. Time to focus on what you really want and need, and laser in on the people you most want to meet, and let the rest go. You’ve built confidence. Now your job is to stop wasting time with the wrong matches. Just because you’re charming doesn’t mean every single man is a good match. Be selective. If someone shows red flags, walk away quickly. If you’re not feeling a real connection, don’t exchange contact information just to be polite. Hopefully, you've figured out what stage you are at and the appropriate coaching to move forward in your mission to meet your next love in real life. But where? Where Do You Meet Single Men in Real Life? I always giggle when people ask me WHERE to meet single people, as if it's a really useful question. If you're asking that question, something else is likely stopping you, besides this supposedly geographical quandary. The answer to where to meet single men in real life is: literally EVERYWHERE! Single men are not just on online dating platforms. They’re at your local community center, the park, the grocery store, your Saturday morning coffee shop, your family and friends' life cycle events and parties, and even your grandkids' school performances. And of course at gyms, churches, temples, bars, and restaurants. They eat 3 times a day, just like you!
Article about how to meet men in real life:
I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps. I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it ",IRL.",
The Best Way to Meet Men in Real Life (Even If You’re Nervous) If you’re an older woman trying to find a romantic relationship in the real world, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps.
>> ENTER THE SITE <<
I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it IRL." But no one teaches us how to approach new people in real life. We've been quite literally discouraged. We were raised being told, "Don't talk to strangers ." So it makes perfect sense that meeting potential partners "in the wild" feels scary, especially if it’s been a while since your last actual date. That’s why I use a mindset tool to help mature adults navigate the experience of meeting people while out and about. It's called the “When in Roam” scale. It’s based on a simple idea: no matter your age or relationship history, you can build confidence, connect with new people, and open the door to real love again. Check out the "scale" and decide what stage you are in. I learned about each stage and the coaching for each stage from the Handel Method. Stage One: The Head-Down Phase. You’re out in public places, but you’re not looking up. You’re not making eye contact. You’ve decided the dating scene is a bad idea—or just not for you. If this is you, your first step is simple. Every time you go out, make "happy eyes" with two people. As Tyra Banks says, smize= "smile with your eyes." Whether you’re in a coffee shop, walking group, or waiting in line at the grocery store, practice looking up and showing warmth with your eyes. It doesn't need to be someone you're interested in or even someone your age or "type," anyone will do. Just get those eyes up and on other people! Stage Two: You Wish You Could Meet People. You want to meet a potential partner, but you’re not sure how. Your assignment: small talk. It’s the best way to start. Just have a Q and A with someone. Ask the nice guy at a tour of your local art museum what he thought of the exhibits. Comment on someone’s dog at the park. Chat up a stranger about what they are buying at your favorite local store. Compliment someone. Ask for directions. Heck, ask what time it is if you are too shy to come up with something spicier. You’re not trying to score a date on the spot—you’re just building the muscle of reaching across the great divide and striking up a dialogue. Challenge yourself to interact with a stranger each time you leave your home. Your goal is at least one back and forth. If it goes further, advance to stage 3! Stage Three: Start the Real Conversations. Stage 3 is for people who can strike up conversations but are still a little shaky on how to sustain a conversation. If you're at this stage, you know how to make an overture to safe people, but it’s time to test your limits--try new people and try extending the conversation. This could be with someone you are standing next to on a street corner. Or at a speed dating event, a meetup group, or after church or pickleball court. Maybe you spot someone in your age group and ask what brought them to the event or location. The goal? Build comfort talking to seemingly single men—without pressure. Read my blog on how to flirt naturally. Now you are officially practicing flirting, but start with people who seem safe and kind (and single). Feel free to ask friends to set you up for this by inviting you to places where they may be! Stage Four: Get Comfortable with Rejection. In Stage 4, you aren't afraid of chatting someone up, but some people might still intimidate you. This is where the real dating practice begins. You are to start initiating conversations with men to whom you could actually be attracted, with no care about their response. That cutie in your book club? The attractive man at your gym? Someone sitting alone at the bar? Say hello. Ask a question. Now you are actually "going for" being blown off or rejected, to toughen your skin on purpose. Flirt out of your league, by design. Rejection is a natural part of dating in the real world and the online dating world alike. I want you to build up a callus for a good reason! If you can handle this without taking it personally, you're so much better off down the road. Stage Five: You Can Talk to Anyone—Now Be Picky. If you are at stage 5, meeting people IRL isn't your problem. Your problem is you're too distracted by all the people around you. You're the social glue because you are so good at it, and may be a social crutch or wingperson for others. Time to focus on what you really want and need, and laser in on the people you most want to meet, and let the rest go. You’ve built confidence. Now your job is to stop wasting time with the wrong matches. Just because you’re charming doesn’t mean every single man is a good match. Be selective. If someone shows red flags, walk away quickly. If you’re not feeling a real connection, don’t exchange contact information just to be polite. Hopefully, you've figured out what stage you are at and the appropriate coaching to move forward in your mission to meet your next love in real life. But where? Where Do You Meet Single Men in Real Life? I always giggle when people ask me WHERE to meet single people, as if it's a really useful question. If you're asking that question, something else is likely stopping you, besides this supposedly geographical quandary. The answer to where to meet single men in real life is: literally EVERYWHERE! Single men are not just on online dating platforms. They’re at your local community center, the park, the grocery store, your Saturday morning coffee shop, your family and friends' life cycle events and parties, and even your grandkids' school performances. And of course at gyms, churches, temples, bars, and restaurants. They eat 3 times a day, just like you!